The teacher’s approval is probably more important to the student than vice versa. It should not be given indiscriminately. Students may respond negatively when entertainment is not forthcoming, but if we really know what we believe, we are less likely to be influenced or manipulated by a reinforcing perception of our own popularity. The question of discipline is not one of strictness or permissiveness but one of cause-and-effect relationships. We discipline those we care about; others we leave alone (Madsen & Madsen, 1998, p. 11).
Madsen, C. K. & Madsen, C. H. (1998). Teaching/Discipline: A Positive Approach For Educational Development. (4th ed.) Raleigh, NC: Contemporary Publishing Company of Raleigh, Inc.